Thanks to legendary actress Sridevi who has helped me to start my impending first post. She died on 24th February leaving a void that can't be filled in many Indian hearts. Since then, like everyone, I too have been reading many stories about her life particularly how much her husband Boney Kapoor loved her. I had met her personally when I was in class 12th in 2005 and had got a chance to participate in International Children Festival, Hyderabad . She happened to be the chief guest of the opening ceremony. So her death brings back a lot of memories to me.
Amid many posts about how much her family loved her, I came across this article of Bombay Times and I was shocked and the first thing which came to my mind was "All that glitters is not gold." Everybody knows how much Boney Kapoor loved her and many women would be envious of her. But nobody would have known what was her contribution and how much pain she was in until her death.
Trust me, this is not surprising. This is how our world is. Everybody appreciates the fact that a man earns for the family but nobody appreciates that a woman also sacrifices many things for her family, let alone earnings. Do you think actress like Sridevi needs a man to support her financially? Well, I don't think so. She could have earned much more than what she actually earned, had she been pursuing her career throughout her life. But she chose to sacrifice her talent, her career because her husband was more important. She trusted him with her life. But how many of us realized this when she was alive? We came to know about it because a celebrity died. But what if she was an ordinary woman? She would have died silently without the world knowing that she was hiding so much pain behind her smile.
I am not saying that she should not have done what she did. Husband and wife are meant to support each other in distress. But why does this world appreciates a man always and not a woman?
Talented woman like Sridevi doesn't get married because she needs financial support from a man, but she needs a companion with whom she can share her laughter and sorrows. Men promise stars and moons before marriage forgetting the fact that women don't want stars and moons. Instead they just want a hand to hold in tough times. But what they get is someone who becomes the reason for their pain.
Truth is it's human nature to forget the value of something one possesses. Once a man gets the right to claim a woman to be his,
1) He expects her to forgets her family and consider his family as hers but never ask his family to consider her as the family member. he forgets the fact that she also has a family who might have gone through several odds to fulfill dreams of their daughter. Isn't it unfair to a girl and her family?
2) He wants her to keep his family happy financially and emotionally but never asks his family to do the same. Don't you think that a girl is also a human being and she has right to take her own decisions.
3) Forget about moons and stars, he makes sure that she goes through pain each and every moment.
4) Boast of being open minded and being educated, but when it comes to his own wife, he forgets to differentiate between right and wrong.
5) Starts proving that he is the best son in this world but wants his wife to remain only a wife and a daughter in law.
I am not saying that all husbands are daemon and all women are angels. If it had been so, this world would have vanished by now. We all know good men exist and so do bad women. But what I am trying to say is don't judge someone until you are in their shoes. What you might perceive to be good might be bad and what you consider to be bad might be good. Life is not fair and its high time women become stronger and independent and stop considering marriage as something which cannot be avoided.
Being a woman it's my responsibility to stop asking other girls "When are you getting married?" Can I expect the same from all women who are reading this post?
Amid many posts about how much her family loved her, I came across this article of Bombay Times and I was shocked and the first thing which came to my mind was "All that glitters is not gold." Everybody knows how much Boney Kapoor loved her and many women would be envious of her. But nobody would have known what was her contribution and how much pain she was in until her death.
Trust me, this is not surprising. This is how our world is. Everybody appreciates the fact that a man earns for the family but nobody appreciates that a woman also sacrifices many things for her family, let alone earnings. Do you think actress like Sridevi needs a man to support her financially? Well, I don't think so. She could have earned much more than what she actually earned, had she been pursuing her career throughout her life. But she chose to sacrifice her talent, her career because her husband was more important. She trusted him with her life. But how many of us realized this when she was alive? We came to know about it because a celebrity died. But what if she was an ordinary woman? She would have died silently without the world knowing that she was hiding so much pain behind her smile.
I am not saying that she should not have done what she did. Husband and wife are meant to support each other in distress. But why does this world appreciates a man always and not a woman?
Talented woman like Sridevi doesn't get married because she needs financial support from a man, but she needs a companion with whom she can share her laughter and sorrows. Men promise stars and moons before marriage forgetting the fact that women don't want stars and moons. Instead they just want a hand to hold in tough times. But what they get is someone who becomes the reason for their pain.
Truth is it's human nature to forget the value of something one possesses. Once a man gets the right to claim a woman to be his,
1) He expects her to forgets her family and consider his family as hers but never ask his family to consider her as the family member. he forgets the fact that she also has a family who might have gone through several odds to fulfill dreams of their daughter. Isn't it unfair to a girl and her family?
2) He wants her to keep his family happy financially and emotionally but never asks his family to do the same. Don't you think that a girl is also a human being and she has right to take her own decisions.
3) Forget about moons and stars, he makes sure that she goes through pain each and every moment.
4) Boast of being open minded and being educated, but when it comes to his own wife, he forgets to differentiate between right and wrong.
5) Starts proving that he is the best son in this world but wants his wife to remain only a wife and a daughter in law.
I am not saying that all husbands are daemon and all women are angels. If it had been so, this world would have vanished by now. We all know good men exist and so do bad women. But what I am trying to say is don't judge someone until you are in their shoes. What you might perceive to be good might be bad and what you consider to be bad might be good. Life is not fair and its high time women become stronger and independent and stop considering marriage as something which cannot be avoided.
Being a woman it's my responsibility to stop asking other girls "When are you getting married?" Can I expect the same from all women who are reading this post?
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